Independence Is Key

How come so many people are so dependent on others is a question that frequently runs through my mind.

Yes, I understand that younger children are dependent on their parents / other people to an extent, and I understand it's never a bad thing to ask for help, but there are so many people today that think they will get to where they want to be by leaning on someone else. That isn't the case, my friends.

In order to get to where you want to be and in order to thrive when you get there you must learn to be an independent person.

So many parents baby their children to the point where the child is incapable to do anything for themselves. It's not that they don't want to do it for themselves it's simply they either just don't know how to or they've had it done for them for so long that they just don't even think to do it for themselves. Raising a child to be that way is not helping them. In the long run it is actually hurting them.

I don't want to step on anyones toes or call people out on their parenting, but I've witnessed people out in the real world that have no idea how to fend for themselves and it's sad. It gets to a point where when they grow up and are on their own that they just don't know how to be alone. They don't know what to do with themselves. So they are always in a relationship because they are so dependent on others and they always need others to be doing things for them or they need others to help them feel something. It's never a bad thing to be alone. There are plenty of quotes that state "in order to be happy with someone else you must first be happy with yourself," and I agree with that 100 percent and think in order to be happy with yourself you must first spend some time alone.

One of the things that annoy me the most is when people say "I don't know how to not be in a relationship" or "I need to have a boyfriend / girlfriend." No, you don't. If that is what you think, then you need to learn how to be on your own because through everything the one person you will always have and always be able to rely on is yourself. You are the one person that you can always count on.

Growing up, my siblings and I were never babied but we were and still are always able to ask for help when we need it, but we are all our own and independent people. Because of that I was able to learn who I am and know what I want out of my life. I never had anyone telling me how I should / shouldn't feel about things, and I never had someone down my throat about what I should be doing with my life. I know how to be alone and on my own and feel things for myself. So shout out to you, mom. Thanks for that.

So my advice to parents, don't baby your children. Always be there for them but make them fend for themselves more often than not. How will they ever learn to be independent and fend for themselves if you are always doing it for them?

And my advice to children, don't always depend on your parents and other people. Work for what you want because no one else will get you to where you want to be besides yourself. Learn to be alone and find / get to know yourself before you commit to anything. You might like being alone and like yourself more than you think.

Friends or more?

There's many people who seem to be convinced that guys and girls can't be just friends.

I find that statement to be absurd. I have plenty of guy friends that I talk to every day and call if I want to hang out, but I've never pictured as anything more than a friend and could never see as anything more than a friend.

I don't understand why there are all of these sayings and quotes that state "guys and girls can be just friends, but at one point or another they will fall for each other." Maybe that is true in some cases but not in all.

It's just silly to me that a guy and girl can't be just friends without a bunch of people asking them about their relationship and what not. This day and age it is possible to just be friends with a guy without there being anymore to it.

People are so worried about everyone else and everyone else's relationships. Maybe if everyone focused on themselves a little more and their own relationships a little more society would shape up to be a little different for the future generations.

Inner-self

Today, alongside my blog I also began a journal. I have many deeper thoughts and feelings that I don't think I'm quite ready for the world to read just yet. I need to deal with those things on my own before I let the world have a preview.

There's so much I have to say to some people but I'm not quite sure how to put things in the right manner. Hopefully getting my thoughts and feelings out onto paper will help with forming the words that I'm looking for. The truth hurts and I don't think certain people are ready to hear the gods honest truth.

Hopefully, someday I'll be able to take things from my blog and journal and publish a book or do something useful with it.