Lately, I haven't had much to say or write about. I wish I did, but I just don't. Maybe it's the summer and my brain not being in school or thinking mode. Hopefully, once I'm back in school and learning about different types of things I will have more to write about.
I don't just want to write about useless and unimportant things. Usually when I think of something to write about I write it down right away but lately I've just had nothing.
Summer time is freeing me and my brain of everything (which I can't complain about). Maybe in a month and a half when I'm back at school my mind will be full of thoughts again.
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Sunday, June 29, 2014
Independence Is Key
How come so many people are so dependent on others is a question that frequently runs through my mind.
Yes, I understand that younger children are dependent on their parents / other people to an extent, and I understand it's never a bad thing to ask for help, but there are so many people today that think they will get to where they want to be by leaning on someone else. That isn't the case, my friends.
In order to get to where you want to be and in order to thrive when you get there you must learn to be an independent person.
So many parents baby their children to the point where the child is incapable to do anything for themselves. It's not that they don't want to do it for themselves it's simply they either just don't know how to or they've had it done for them for so long that they just don't even think to do it for themselves. Raising a child to be that way is not helping them. In the long run it is actually hurting them.
I don't want to step on anyones toes or call people out on their parenting, but I've witnessed people out in the real world that have no idea how to fend for themselves and it's sad. It gets to a point where when they grow up and are on their own that they just don't know how to be alone. They don't know what to do with themselves. So they are always in a relationship because they are so dependent on others and they always need others to be doing things for them or they need others to help them feel something. It's never a bad thing to be alone. There are plenty of quotes that state "in order to be happy with someone else you must first be happy with yourself," and I agree with that 100 percent and think in order to be happy with yourself you must first spend some time alone.
One of the things that annoy me the most is when people say "I don't know how to not be in a relationship" or "I need to have a boyfriend / girlfriend." No, you don't. If that is what you think, then you need to learn how to be on your own because through everything the one person you will always have and always be able to rely on is yourself. You are the one person that you can always count on.
Growing up, my siblings and I were never babied but we were and still are always able to ask for help when we need it, but we are all our own and independent people. Because of that I was able to learn who I am and know what I want out of my life. I never had anyone telling me how I should / shouldn't feel about things, and I never had someone down my throat about what I should be doing with my life. I know how to be alone and on my own and feel things for myself. So shout out to you, mom. Thanks for that.
So my advice to parents, don't baby your children. Always be there for them but make them fend for themselves more often than not. How will they ever learn to be independent and fend for themselves if you are always doing it for them?
And my advice to children, don't always depend on your parents and other people. Work for what you want because no one else will get you to where you want to be besides yourself. Learn to be alone and find / get to know yourself before you commit to anything. You might like being alone and like yourself more than you think.
Yes, I understand that younger children are dependent on their parents / other people to an extent, and I understand it's never a bad thing to ask for help, but there are so many people today that think they will get to where they want to be by leaning on someone else. That isn't the case, my friends.
In order to get to where you want to be and in order to thrive when you get there you must learn to be an independent person.
So many parents baby their children to the point where the child is incapable to do anything for themselves. It's not that they don't want to do it for themselves it's simply they either just don't know how to or they've had it done for them for so long that they just don't even think to do it for themselves. Raising a child to be that way is not helping them. In the long run it is actually hurting them.
I don't want to step on anyones toes or call people out on their parenting, but I've witnessed people out in the real world that have no idea how to fend for themselves and it's sad. It gets to a point where when they grow up and are on their own that they just don't know how to be alone. They don't know what to do with themselves. So they are always in a relationship because they are so dependent on others and they always need others to be doing things for them or they need others to help them feel something. It's never a bad thing to be alone. There are plenty of quotes that state "in order to be happy with someone else you must first be happy with yourself," and I agree with that 100 percent and think in order to be happy with yourself you must first spend some time alone.
One of the things that annoy me the most is when people say "I don't know how to not be in a relationship" or "I need to have a boyfriend / girlfriend." No, you don't. If that is what you think, then you need to learn how to be on your own because through everything the one person you will always have and always be able to rely on is yourself. You are the one person that you can always count on.
Growing up, my siblings and I were never babied but we were and still are always able to ask for help when we need it, but we are all our own and independent people. Because of that I was able to learn who I am and know what I want out of my life. I never had anyone telling me how I should / shouldn't feel about things, and I never had someone down my throat about what I should be doing with my life. I know how to be alone and on my own and feel things for myself. So shout out to you, mom. Thanks for that.
So my advice to parents, don't baby your children. Always be there for them but make them fend for themselves more often than not. How will they ever learn to be independent and fend for themselves if you are always doing it for them?
And my advice to children, don't always depend on your parents and other people. Work for what you want because no one else will get you to where you want to be besides yourself. Learn to be alone and find / get to know yourself before you commit to anything. You might like being alone and like yourself more than you think.
Saturday, June 28, 2014
Friends or more?
There's many people who seem to be convinced that guys and girls can't be just friends.
I find that statement to be absurd. I have plenty of guy friends that I talk to every day and call if I want to hang out, but I've never pictured as anything more than a friend and could never see as anything more than a friend.
I don't understand why there are all of these sayings and quotes that state "guys and girls can be just friends, but at one point or another they will fall for each other." Maybe that is true in some cases but not in all.
It's just silly to me that a guy and girl can't be just friends without a bunch of people asking them about their relationship and what not. This day and age it is possible to just be friends with a guy without there being anymore to it.
People are so worried about everyone else and everyone else's relationships. Maybe if everyone focused on themselves a little more and their own relationships a little more society would shape up to be a little different for the future generations.
I find that statement to be absurd. I have plenty of guy friends that I talk to every day and call if I want to hang out, but I've never pictured as anything more than a friend and could never see as anything more than a friend.
I don't understand why there are all of these sayings and quotes that state "guys and girls can be just friends, but at one point or another they will fall for each other." Maybe that is true in some cases but not in all.
It's just silly to me that a guy and girl can't be just friends without a bunch of people asking them about their relationship and what not. This day and age it is possible to just be friends with a guy without there being anymore to it.
People are so worried about everyone else and everyone else's relationships. Maybe if everyone focused on themselves a little more and their own relationships a little more society would shape up to be a little different for the future generations.
Tuesday, June 10, 2014
Inner-self
Today, alongside my blog I also began a journal. I have many deeper thoughts and feelings that I don't think I'm quite ready for the world to read just yet. I need to deal with those things on my own before I let the world have a preview.
There's so much I have to say to some people but I'm not quite sure how to put things in the right manner. Hopefully getting my thoughts and feelings out onto paper will help with forming the words that I'm looking for. The truth hurts and I don't think certain people are ready to hear the gods honest truth.
Hopefully, someday I'll be able to take things from my blog and journal and publish a book or do something useful with it.
There's so much I have to say to some people but I'm not quite sure how to put things in the right manner. Hopefully getting my thoughts and feelings out onto paper will help with forming the words that I'm looking for. The truth hurts and I don't think certain people are ready to hear the gods honest truth.
Hopefully, someday I'll be able to take things from my blog and journal and publish a book or do something useful with it.
Wednesday, May 28, 2014
Let It Go
I've always been told 'why worry about what you cannot change' and I'm finally coming to the conclusion of how true that statement really is.
This year a lot of things didn't go the way that I had planned or hoped for. A lot faltered in the way of friends and boys, and I spent a lot of time over analyzing and over thinking and then one day someone said to me "is it really worth putting yourself through this? Do you really want to know the answers to these questions? There's nothing you can change or do, so just let it go." It was a major reality check and one that I desperately needed.
People spend too much and too many of their days worrying and over thinking things that they miss out on all of the good that is going on around them. After I got my reality check, I realized how much I had missed out on while I was 'bumming' around my house. Once I finally got back out and allowed myself to have fun I realized how silly it was to mope and wonder about the things I had no control over.
I know that it's hard to let some things go, but sometimes once you do you realize the weight that has been lifted off of your shoulders. People come in and out of your life for a reason. You may not know that reason but there is always one there. Every person you meet teaches you something. Whether it's just a silly little fact or a huge life lesson.
People come and people go. There will always be something to worry about or wonder about but how you chose to let that affect you is your decision.
Sometimes, theres nothing else you can do but let it go.
This year a lot of things didn't go the way that I had planned or hoped for. A lot faltered in the way of friends and boys, and I spent a lot of time over analyzing and over thinking and then one day someone said to me "is it really worth putting yourself through this? Do you really want to know the answers to these questions? There's nothing you can change or do, so just let it go." It was a major reality check and one that I desperately needed.
People spend too much and too many of their days worrying and over thinking things that they miss out on all of the good that is going on around them. After I got my reality check, I realized how much I had missed out on while I was 'bumming' around my house. Once I finally got back out and allowed myself to have fun I realized how silly it was to mope and wonder about the things I had no control over.
I know that it's hard to let some things go, but sometimes once you do you realize the weight that has been lifted off of your shoulders. People come in and out of your life for a reason. You may not know that reason but there is always one there. Every person you meet teaches you something. Whether it's just a silly little fact or a huge life lesson.
People come and people go. There will always be something to worry about or wonder about but how you chose to let that affect you is your decision.
Sometimes, theres nothing else you can do but let it go.
The Phone Crazed Generation
Today's generation is so obsessed with social media and their cell phones. I too am beyond guilty of it. Whenever someone has a free second in their day you can probably guess that they are sending / responding to a text or checking social media.
Today, I decided to turn my phone off for a little bit and just enjoy the company around me and just enjoy life without the pressure of having to answer a text or check social media. I must say, it was quite a relief. You really learn a lot about a person when you put down the phone, look them in the eye, and have a conversation where you are fully listening to what the other person has to say.
How many times have you been with a group of friends and instead of talking to each other you are all sitting there on your phones - texting other people? What is the point? If you wanted to be talking with the other people then perhaps you should have decided to hang out with them instead. How many times has someone been trying to have a conversation with someone and hardly have any of their attention because their eyes are glued to their phone, and then they finally look up and say "what did you say?" Isn't it so aggravating?
The generation that we live in knows nothing other than social media. It's how everyone stays 'in the know,' and while that is all fine and well there is a time and a place for everything. While with a group of people, on a date, etc that is not the time nor the place.
I used to be that person who was ALWAYS on their phone. No matter who I was with or what the situation. I would never put it down and while I still usually have it on me, I now know how aggravating it is to be trying to have a conversation with someone while they are paying no attention to you and instead texting someone else.
Many people use their phone as an escape mechanism. For instance, if they see someone they have no desire to talk to then instead of a simple 'hello' they look down at their phone and pretend they are busy.
Even little kids these days are obsessed with their iPod's, iPad's, etc. It's a shame because they don't get to experience life. How many people look back and remember "oh yeah, that was the day I played that really cool game on my iPad." No, they look back and remember the fun times in the park, and riding their bikes, and just enjoying the outdoors.
I sure do hope that by the time I have kid's society isn't still phone crazed. I hope it's back to the way things used to be when kids would play outside for fun and not sit inside playing a game on their iPod.
If everyone could just put down their phones for a little while and enjoy the company around them I think the world would see a world of difference in peoples interactions towards each other.
Today, I decided to turn my phone off for a little bit and just enjoy the company around me and just enjoy life without the pressure of having to answer a text or check social media. I must say, it was quite a relief. You really learn a lot about a person when you put down the phone, look them in the eye, and have a conversation where you are fully listening to what the other person has to say.
How many times have you been with a group of friends and instead of talking to each other you are all sitting there on your phones - texting other people? What is the point? If you wanted to be talking with the other people then perhaps you should have decided to hang out with them instead. How many times has someone been trying to have a conversation with someone and hardly have any of their attention because their eyes are glued to their phone, and then they finally look up and say "what did you say?" Isn't it so aggravating?
The generation that we live in knows nothing other than social media. It's how everyone stays 'in the know,' and while that is all fine and well there is a time and a place for everything. While with a group of people, on a date, etc that is not the time nor the place.
I used to be that person who was ALWAYS on their phone. No matter who I was with or what the situation. I would never put it down and while I still usually have it on me, I now know how aggravating it is to be trying to have a conversation with someone while they are paying no attention to you and instead texting someone else.
Many people use their phone as an escape mechanism. For instance, if they see someone they have no desire to talk to then instead of a simple 'hello' they look down at their phone and pretend they are busy.
Even little kids these days are obsessed with their iPod's, iPad's, etc. It's a shame because they don't get to experience life. How many people look back and remember "oh yeah, that was the day I played that really cool game on my iPad." No, they look back and remember the fun times in the park, and riding their bikes, and just enjoying the outdoors.
I sure do hope that by the time I have kid's society isn't still phone crazed. I hope it's back to the way things used to be when kids would play outside for fun and not sit inside playing a game on their iPod.
If everyone could just put down their phones for a little while and enjoy the company around them I think the world would see a world of difference in peoples interactions towards each other.
Friday, May 23, 2014
Relationships, Standards, and Dating.
I've always found people who hop from relationship to relationship like it's nothing interesting. Mainly, I just wonder how? I wonder do you actually like the person or is it just a comforting factor knowing you always having someone there?
The way I look at relationships is that if I'm not totally into the person, instead of wasting my time and their time then I don't proceed. I'd rather have a ton of friends, and just hang out and date then be in a committed relationship if I'm not feeling things. Maybe that's just me and maybe I'm weird because of that, but I don't want to just settle if my heart isn't fully into it.
In my 19 years of living (not many, I know) I've only wanted a relationship two times. One of which happen and one of which did not. My high school relationship was pretty serious and never did I regret being in it because it taught me a lot.
At this age, I feel like people are just figuring out what they want and what they don't want. If you never get to date and experience all different types of people then how do you actually know what you want in a lifelong partner when it comes down to deciding?
I guess some people get lucky on their first try of a relationship and just know that they never want / need to experience anyone else. But, I've learned over the years that there is nothing wrong with dating and if you aren't into it then you aren't into it. That's what dating is for. It's a thing that allows you to figure out what you want in a partner and what you do not.
Maybe my standards are too high, but I won't just settle for anyone. (Maybe that's also why I've only ever had one serious relationship.)
Unless the feelings are mutual and we both want to be totally committed to each other then serious relationships are just pointless. At this age we should just be having fun and dating because this is the time in our lives where we need to make experiences and we need to learn in order to proceed with the rest of our life.
If you see no future with someone then why proceed? Life is short and there is no time to be wasted; so have tons of friends and go on tons of dates, and then when you meet the right person you'll know and have no problem committing.
The way I look at relationships is that if I'm not totally into the person, instead of wasting my time and their time then I don't proceed. I'd rather have a ton of friends, and just hang out and date then be in a committed relationship if I'm not feeling things. Maybe that's just me and maybe I'm weird because of that, but I don't want to just settle if my heart isn't fully into it.
In my 19 years of living (not many, I know) I've only wanted a relationship two times. One of which happen and one of which did not. My high school relationship was pretty serious and never did I regret being in it because it taught me a lot.
At this age, I feel like people are just figuring out what they want and what they don't want. If you never get to date and experience all different types of people then how do you actually know what you want in a lifelong partner when it comes down to deciding?
I guess some people get lucky on their first try of a relationship and just know that they never want / need to experience anyone else. But, I've learned over the years that there is nothing wrong with dating and if you aren't into it then you aren't into it. That's what dating is for. It's a thing that allows you to figure out what you want in a partner and what you do not.
Maybe my standards are too high, but I won't just settle for anyone. (Maybe that's also why I've only ever had one serious relationship.)
Unless the feelings are mutual and we both want to be totally committed to each other then serious relationships are just pointless. At this age we should just be having fun and dating because this is the time in our lives where we need to make experiences and we need to learn in order to proceed with the rest of our life.
If you see no future with someone then why proceed? Life is short and there is no time to be wasted; so have tons of friends and go on tons of dates, and then when you meet the right person you'll know and have no problem committing.
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