Isn't it funny?

I find it funny how the term 'isn't it funny' is used so often these days.

Like 'isn't it funny they turned out to be so different then I had originally thought,' or 'isn't it funny they told me it wouldn't work out because distance, but now weeks later they are in the same situation with someone else,' or 'isn't it funny how people can walk out of your life, just like that?'

No people, none of those things are funny. Maybe that term is being used as a coping mechanism. I know I do it myself, and usually when I'm saying 'isn't it funny' I really don't find the matter to be funny. I probably find the matter to be upsetting or hurtful, but instead of letting others know how we really feel about the situation we simply just say 'isn't it funny?'

I know laughing it off or trying to make jokes out of upsetting situations is much easier to do than actually dealing with the situation, but in the end, where does that get us?

We've always been told that it's okay to cry and it's okay to be sad. So how come when we feel anything other than happy; it doesn't feel okay? Or how come when someone is crying in public it becomes the talk of the town? The truth is, everyone is facing things other people know nothing about. But everyone's problems matter and they shouldn't feel any less just because what they are going through isn't as significant as what someone else may be going through.

So, 'isn't it funny' how we've always been told it's okay to feel one way, but society has made us think and feel completely different about what is okay?