Relationships, Standards, and Dating.

I've always found people who hop from relationship to relationship like it's nothing interesting. Mainly, I just wonder how? I wonder do you actually like the person or is it just a comforting factor knowing you always having someone there?

The way I look at relationships is that if I'm not totally into the person, instead of wasting my time and their time then I don't proceed. I'd rather have a ton of friends, and just hang out and date then be in a committed relationship if I'm not feeling things. Maybe that's just me and maybe I'm weird because of that, but I don't want to just settle if my heart isn't fully into it.

In my 19 years of living (not many, I know) I've only wanted a relationship two times. One of which happen and one of which did not. My high school relationship was pretty serious and never did I regret being in it because it taught me a lot.

At this age, I feel like people are just figuring out what they want and what they don't want. If you never get to date and experience all different types of people then how do you actually know what you want in a lifelong partner when it comes down to deciding?

I guess some people get lucky on their first try of a relationship and just know that they never want / need to experience anyone else. But, I've learned over the years that there is nothing wrong with dating and if you aren't into it then you aren't into it. That's what dating is for. It's a thing that allows you to figure out what you want in a partner and what you do not.

Maybe my standards are too high, but I won't just settle for anyone. (Maybe that's also why I've only ever had one serious relationship.)

Unless the feelings are mutual and we both want to be totally committed to each other then serious relationships are just pointless. At this age we should just be having fun and dating because this is the time in our lives where we need to make experiences and we need to learn in order to proceed with the rest of our life.

If you see no future with someone then why proceed? Life is short and there is no time to be wasted; so have tons of friends and go on tons of dates, and then when you meet the right person you'll know and have no problem committing.